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Both heterosexuals and homosexuals have more choice: less heterosexuals are
having children and more homosexuals are (Blumstein and Schwartz, 1983).
Until recently, “gaybies” were born in straight marriages that later ended in divorce
Lesbian baby boom of the 1990’s: donor insemination, co-parenting with gay male, or
adoption (often overseas because other countries are not as selective with parents)
Examining same-sex families “can teach us important things about other families,
about parenting, about adaptation to tensions in this society, and especially
about strength and resilience.” (Laird, 203, pp. 284)
They are not abandoning mainstream culture. They are bicultural, carrying on
most traditional aspects of family, but also have their own culture due to
homophobia.
Coming out is now becoming a family affair: more kids than ever are coming out
while still at home.
+ Possible items to address in therapy
with LGBTQ person
Gay youth often act out to manage their pain
(Linville and O’Neil, 2009).
Not many role models for LGBTQ community, especially for parents.
LGBTQ persons were not trained in childhood for the the lifestyle they would grow
up to live (same of straight people who take a different path from family).
+ Possible items to address in therapy
with LGBTQ couple
Fusion: believed to be a large problem in lesbian
couples (mutual overdependence) because of female
socialization.
Hypersensitive to feelings of others and not enough of to
her own. Although creates strong sexual and emotional
intimacy, it discourages differentiation.
Huge demands on the relationship. Leads to increased
conflict and diminishing sexual interest.
Selflessness such a bad thing?
Merge lives fast, and when initial passion diminishes, it is extra disappointing.
Often, couples are together while still finding their sexual identity completely. Can
cause conflict, especially regarding openness in the community.
Fear of closeness (trust issues) after years of being in the closet (Ritter, 2009).
Might be alienated from community, so only have each other (therapist must
determine if this is a survival mechanism).
Possible items to address in therapy
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with LGBTQ family
Not many role models for LGBTQ families.
Must create own norms for the family.
Most families do not wish for gay children because of the scrutiny their child (and
they themselves) might face (e.g. HIV-infected man’s family)
Poses challenges to life they pictured for their children (e.g. mother of lesbian
might believe her daughter needs a man to survive).
Realization that child belongs to a different culture. Powerful.
Some question their own parenting and believe that they could have controlled
child’s sexual identity (e.g. discourage stereotypical gender behavior).
Sticky triangles or problematic coalitions if open with certain family members, but
not others.
What therapists can do
+ FOR LGBTQ PERSONS FOR LGBTQ
FAMILIES-OF-ORIGIN
Recognize their traditional
heterosexual bias (Ritter, 2009).
Help family members decide
Help LGBTQ person and family to for themselves what they
evaluate negative messages they believe (Fish and Harvey,
receive from the culture. 2009).
Parent sexual orientation has little impact of child’s sexual development, gender
expression, sexual identity, and sexual preferences.
In fact, female children of lesbian mothers reported greater psychological femininity.
Lesbians are not man-haters. Research actually shows that lesbians have more
contact with male family than heterosexual women.
“You can’t pick your family.” Well, in gay families, you do!
Much broader definition of what constitutes a couple or family
There is no normative structure for a gay family.
Partners and friends (not family members) are usually the primary support
Only if person values family-of-origin’s opinion does it greatly affect his/her outlook
Family-of-origin support is not crucial, because family is often created.
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