•Meaning

•Definition
•Need for counseling
Counselling!!!!!!!!!!!!
 You're ready for the looney bin.
It's a crutch for "weak" people.
It's for people who like nasal gazing
(they're too into themselves).
It's for those folks who want to get psycho “
analyzed"?
Counseling is none of
these. More percisely...
 Counseling is a conversational process that can be
instrumental in the development of skills that help
students effectively confront and cope with
uncertainties and conflicts
 Counseling helps with problems in living through
an interaction with a trained professional.
 Counseling is largely a voluntary activity whereby
clients must wish to change and collaborate willingly
with the counselor. Early counseling activity in some
cases involves bringing referred clients to this point of
readiness
 Results of counseling can include:
 Insight and understanding of oneself, with greater
self-awareness.
 Changing of one's beliefs and mental models.
 Increased acceptance and appreciation of oneself.
 Increased emotional intelligence.
 Increased ability to control oneself and one's urges.
 Development of skills and abilities that require self-
management
 Improved motivation towards actions that are good for
one's self.
 Understanding of others and why they act as they do.
 Increased appreciation and care for others.
 Improvement in relationships with others.
 Changing of relationship with family, friends and
others.
 Making amends for past negative actions.
Definitions

 A principled relationship characterized by the

application of one or more psychological theories and a
recognized set of communication skills, modified by
experience, intuition and other interpersonal factors, to
clients' intimate concerns, problems or
aspirations. (Feltham and Dryden, 1993)
 “The counseling is an interactive process conjoining the
counselee who needs assistance and the counsellor
is trained and educated to give this assistance”
Perez(1965)

“A process in which the counsellor assist the counselee to

make interpretations of facts relating to a choice ,
plan, or Adjustments which he needs to make”
Smith(1955)
Many Myths About Counseling
Something for “crazy people”?

Professional help for people with really major

problems?

An activity for people who are way too

preoccupied with themselves!

A crutch for people who are just too weak

to handle life.
Counselling a Mirror
 Counseling is a unique relationship
in which the Counselor’s job is to
hold up a mirror for the client to see
himself or herself in. We all have
experiences in which we can’t see
things about ourselves without a
mirror.
 Reflections

I hear you saying....

It seems that you are....
I can feel that you are experiencing...
How does that make you feel?
What emotions do you have about this?
So What Is Counseling?


It’s an Honest and Supportive Mirror

It’s a Relationship that Builds

Confidence
 Need For Counseling
 It is important because we need to take care of
ourselves both physically and mentally.

 Counseling is a great way to work through problems

such as traumatic life events or mental disorder
 Stress
 Difficulty with major life events or other life stressors
Relationships
 Problems with co-workers or family relationships
 Addictions
 Overeating, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling,
or workaholic behaviors
 Emotional issues
 Grief, depression, excessive jealousy, anxiety, phobias,
or panic attacks
 Low self-esteem
 Insecurity, shyness, feelings of worthlessness,
unhappiness with physical looks
 Life changes
 Illness, becoming a parent, career changes, mid-life
issues
Crisis in Relationships:
 Recent significant loss or rejection.
 Loss or illness of a family member or close friend.
 Conflict with a roommate, friend, or family.
Career/Educational Choices:
 Indecision about interests, abilities, or values.
 Poor performance in chosen field of study.
 Perception of a lack of alternatives or options when
your career pathway seems stymied.
 Problems with Academic Performance:
Test or public-speaking anxiety.
Poor performance/feeling de-motivated (e.g., especially if
this represents a change from prior level of functioning).
Confusion over low performance.
 Substance Abuse:
 Excessive and/or increased use of alcohol or other drugs.
 Impaired daily functioning secondary to substance use
(e.g., not attending classes/work).
Unusual Behavior or Marked Change in Behavior:
 Depression or marked anxiety.
 Changes in appearance, including weight and personal
hygiene.
 Extreme mood changes or excessive, inappropriate
display of emotion.
 Insomnia or excessive sleep.
 Hyperactivity, chronic irritability, or excessive anxiety.
 Sudden withdrawal from social contacts.
Harmful Statements or Behaviors:
 Thinking of suicide or expressing statements of
helplessness or hopelessness.
 Extreme risk-taking behavior.
 Persistent or prolonged unhappiness.
 Health related Issue - If you are suffering from
hypertension, migraine, asthma or skin problems you
may need counseling to maintain good health and
help in healing the pain of your disease.
 Development is an important goal for developing
countries. This goal cannot be achieved without the
growth of human potential. Counseling is one of the
effective means for developing human potential. Yet
counseling has been evolving slowly in developing
countries. Reports show that counseling and guidance
have been started in the schools in some of these
countries; they rarely show that counseling has been
implemented in other settings.
 Motivation Sessions - Whether you are a student,
businessman or a sportsperson you may need
counseling ,it increases your motivation and will
power to succeed.

 Counseling will help by motivating you to deal with

the present crisis. It will provide you solutions and
therapies to cope up with the past and prepare for
future
Identify the people in need
I. Personality Problem
a) High self-image , poor opinion of others
 Aggressive
 Autocratic
 Critical of others but does not accept criticism
 Has very fixed views
 Makes hasty decisions
 Quick tempered
 Enjoys ‘point scoring’
b) Poor self-image, high opinion of others
 Timid
 Anxious to please
 Prefers to help rather than do
 Worries about failure
 Indecisive
 Withdrawn
 Easily influenced by others
c) Poor image of self & of others
 Blames others
 Disorganized
 Irrational
 Forgetful
 Defensive
 Paranoid
Work Related Problem

a) Over work
 Works long hours
 Takes work home
 Everything becomes urgent
 Tiredness
 Irritable and agitated
 Reduced contact with colleagues
 b)Underemployment
 Boredom
 Casual attitude towards work
 Feels frustrated because talents are under used
 Lateness and absenteeism
 Becomes cynical about the company and bosses
c) Uncertainty about the future
 Takes on more work to prove ability
 Concerned about promotion
 Reluctant to share information with colleagues
 Constantly seeks reassurance from bosses
 Seeks additional responsibilities
 d) Inability to cope with technology
 Blames equipment for mistakes
 Regularly refers to the good old days
 Fears making errors
 Poor relationship with technical whiz kids
 Increased absenteeism