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C. SUBBU
KARTHIK
KRISHNAN
POOJA NAIR
SANKAR RAJAN
SUMAN GHOSH
SURENDRAN
Everybody is somebody ’ s
difficult person at some
point in time !!!
Boss!!!
10 MOST UNWANTED
TANK : Confrontational, angry and
aggressive
SNIPER: Sarcastic, rude, make people
look dumb
GRENADE: Unfocussed, ranting and
raving
KNOW-IT-ALL: Low tolerance for
contradiction
THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL : Attention Grabbing
answers
NO PERSON: Keep saying no!
Perfection Control
Attention
Approval
AND WHEN THEY CAN’T
• PERFECTIONIST
• CONTROLLING
• APPROVAL SEEKING
• ATTENTION SEEKING
A powerful key to bring out the best in people – Give a benefit of doubt,
Assume a positive intent behind their problem behavior & then deal
accordingly. If not sure about the positive intent, make something up.
SUGGESTIONS
Look at the tank as a wind up toy which
will wind down soon
Try to think and act like people whom you
have seen handling such situations.
Your goal should be to command respect
ACTION PLAN
The Sniper
Ø Adjusting Attitude
• Experimental laboratory by
remembering previous experiences
with the Know-It-Alls.
Action Plan for The Know-It-
All
1.Be prepared and know your stuff
2.Backtrack respectfully
3. Tell it like it is
•
Human Behavior
Ta sk Fo cu s
G e t It G e t It
R ig h t D one
G e t A lo n g Get
Appreciated
Pe o p le
GRENADE
Fo cu s
How to prevent the pin from
pulling off !!
• Get the person’s attention and Reduce
intensity
• Aim for the heart: - Words of love,
touch and affection
• Time off for good behaviour.
• Caution: Don’t try and have a
reasonable discussion about the
cause of the explosion during the
explosion.
• Grenade prevention. Find the pin and
The ‘YES’ Person
‘Over commit’ to please
the person…coz they
really cannot say No!!
The reasons
• No clear picture or analysis of
one’s plan
• Underlying drive to get along with
others
• Actually nice people, when things
go wrong, they actually feel bad
• Poor on task skills, organizing
skills etc
Human Behavior
Ta sk Fo cu s
G e t It G e t It
R ig h t D one
G e t A lo n g Get
Appreciated
G e t It G e t It
R ig h t D one
G e t A lo n g Get
Appreciated
• Strengthen Relationship
Nothing Person
Task Focus
Get it right
Perfection
ist
Approval
seeking
Get along
People Focus
Features of the ‘Nothing
person’…..
Ø They are passive & not involve in
conversation.
Ø ‘Get along’ people don’t say much in fear.
Better try to avoid conflict & disapproval
with them.
Ø ‘Get it right’ people find perfection
otherwise they get frustrated.
Ø Passive-aggressive answer from them
acronym for Frustrated, Insecure,
Neurotic & Emotional.
Ø Their face, body posture & eyes give
Persuasion of Nothing people to
talk
Action Plans:
Get it right
Perfection
ist
People Focus
Features of the ‘No person’……..
Get it right
Perfection
ist
People Focus
Features of the Whiner……
Ø 3 types of complaints are there:
1. Helpful
2. Therapeutic
3. Obnoxious
Ø For the feeling of helplessness, the whiner is
vocally less assertive.
Ø Three elements are responsible for ‘Whining
sound’:
1. The weight on their shoulder.
2. The effort required to talk.
3. the feeling of futility.
Whiner Do’s and
Don’ts……..
Do’s
Don’ts
IF YOU ARE THE SNIPER
• Sniper – severe brain (speech)
• Grudge or grievance – be open to
them
– Admit yourself
– Responsibility for the perceptions and
reactions
– Describe why and expectations
• Find the source
• Sniping defeats other cardinals –
managerial look
IF YOU ARE THE KNOW-IT-
ALL
• The more you know, the more you
don’t know
• Everyone – unique perspective.
• Wisdom (a product of an inquiring
mind, connected to heart)has a
greater value than knowledge
IF YOU ARE THE THEY-KNOW-IT-
ALL
• 3 THINGS TO REMEMBER
– Admitting mistake – no disgrace –
regain esteem
– Exaggeration cause – to be
appreciated and liked
– Stop trying to impress – foolish –
practice being silent, to gain
appreciation – give recognition and
genuine appreciation to others
IF YOU ARE THE GRENADE
• Determine the motive to get changed
• What your pin is and what pulls out
– Examine situations – common thread
• For occasional grenade
– Express sooner
– Spend more time to develop
–
IF YOU ARE THE YES
PERSON
• Be straightforward – commitments
• Think about others – sales person
• No real intimacy
• Practice being assertive
• Strength – genuine caring
IF YOU ARE THE MAYBE
PERSON
• There are no perfect decisions
– Inherent costs
• Unmade decision
• When in doubt – decide now
• Decision – Hurting others
IF YOU ARE THE NOTHING
PERSON
• The conflict makes the distance from
others
• Distance Isolation
• Express emotions, don’t stuff
• Try to use no blaming type of
conversations
IF YOU ARE THE NO PERSON
• Negative mind (everyone) – wrong
perceptions
• Tape recorder
• List of disappointments
• Waiting opportunities
• Criticism and feedback – problem
solving process
•
IF YOU ARE THE WHINER
• Switch to a problem solving mode
• Look the world around you
– Stick to specifics
• Appreciate what works in life
– Notes – appreciate
• Alternative doings
– Stop! Make another commitment
HOW TO APPLY ?
• Learn from all the opportunities
• Team up with a communication
partner
– Share – develops you to pay attention
• Count on your blessings – strength
• After application – easy success, win
and lose, more choices – only you
are responsible
• Learn to accept differences (at worst)
HOW TO CHANGE
YOURATTITUDE?