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Communication Pathways. Southlake, TX: Fountainhead. Conflict • Natural part of relationships • Can foster growth if managed well • Communication is both: – Source of conflict – Remedy for conflict • Makes management a challenge • Need skill development to deal with conflict well Defining Conflict • Expressed Struggle • Between Two Interdependent Parties • With Perceived – incompatible goals – scarce resources – Interference from each other How we talk about conflict • Metaphors for Conflict • Positive – Game, dance, exercise • Negative – War, fight, explosion Reasons for Conflict • Parties have different information • Parties have different interpretations • Parties conclusions reflect self-interest Conflict Management • Problematic Behaviors – Four horsemen of the apocalypse • Criticism • Contempt • Defensiveness • Stonewalling Conflict Management Styles • Two dimensions – Assertiveness and cooperativeness • Five Styles – Competing – Accommodating – Avoiding – Compromising – Collaboration Dialogue and Conflict Resolution • Use description vs. evaluation • Focus on solving problem, not controlling outcomes • Be spontaneous, not strategic • Express empathy, not neutrality • Acknowledge equality, don’t be superior • Be provisional, not certain