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Prepared by-
Mayuri Bandsode Khartad
And Welcome To Our Presentation
HELICOPTER PARENTING
So,…Do you AGREE with :
What is Helicopter Parenting..?
They "hover overhead", overseeing every aspect of their child's life constantly.
In Typical helicopter parenting, a mother or father swoops in at any sign of
challenge or discomfort faced by their child.
Helicopter Parenting: OVER- PARENTING
It means being involved in a child's life in a way that is :
Feeling of Anxiety
Success Race
Helicopter Parenting - TRIGGERS
Helicopter parenting can develop for a number of reasons.
Only Child
Information Explosion
Need for Control
Over Compensation
You are Turning to be a
Helicopter Parents If :
• You do for your child what he/she can actually do for herself/ himself
• In Lower elementary school, you ensure your child has a certain teacher or coach.
• Even if they are walking a short distance away, yet you try to stick with your kids.
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• You influence your child to work as per your ambitions
• You provide disproportionate assistance for homework and school projects , assignments etc
• While schooling or Coaching -You try to train your child’s educators and tutors
Even if they are walking a short distance away, yet you try to stick with your kids
You quick to find the missing puzzle piece for your child without even letting your child struggle to find it.
You provide disproportionate assistance for homework and school projects , assignments etc
When your Kid comes home with a bad test grade, you're on the phone with the teacher the next day.
Helicopter Parenting –
Teenage Level till Adulthood
• Not allowing your child to make age-appropriate choices and independence.
• Disputing on your teens grade; requesting an extension for their teen’s assignment or Re-exam etc.
• Hover from the prospective university admissions stage to graduation and the Job market beyond.
• Constantly in touch with young adult over Mobile or other communication channels.
Mitigate
Helicopter Parenting – Positive Side
Weight the RISK before being Over-Protective
• An Advocate or Supporter
• Safety
• Absorbs caring attitude & good Values from parents and return the favor to next generation.
We only need to separate Helicopter Parenting from being Over-focused to reap the benefits of this parenting style.
Helicopter Parenting – The Other Side
Remember: One day your child may need to cope without you.
Long term effects of Helicopter parenting are not Good & may lead to :
Observe your child and write down what he/ she can do by herself.
Talk to their teacher and ask what does they do on their own at school and make a mental note and do not intervene the with those
activities in future.
Ex : Like going to the bathroom or eating or Tying shoe less, picking up their clothes etc.
Ex : Allow an elementary child to choose their preferred extracurricular activity or hobbies, or what classes to take.
This way, kids learn that the responsibility for their actions falls on them.
In addition, they learn to make better choices next time
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Supportive Parenting - Without Hovering
Let them fail and get up
As parents cannot be around always, let children fail, fall and get disappointed.
Children should understand that failing is a normal and inevitable part of life and can offer much greater life lessons than success
This will prepare them better for the future and help them gain confidence to tackle their problem independently, without fear of failure.
Children learn through experience ,so as long as there are no serious risks, it’s important to let them take risks to aid in their
development.
Ex –
In a Play ground, Stop yourself from hovering around, leave your kid and just sit back and observe.
You can see how they behave or think, when you are not holding their hand.
This will give parents the confidence to leave him/her , when he is playing next time with minimal supervision.
Let them climb and crawl to the top of slide and skid down, and interfere only if very necessary.
Let the kids too experience Trial and error exercise, to be prepared for future problem solving and coping skills.
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Supportive Parenting - Without Hovering
Give up - Fix it approach
A child is stuck on a homework, so usually parents help them by giving them the solution, but this should not become a routine.
The long-term goal is that they become their : Own problem solver
Suggest ways of thinking about the problem or push them to research the answer to the problem.
Let them tackle few things on her own, even if they gets a little frustrated…!
Emphasis should be on :
How this struggles can be a opportunity for independent learning and being accountable for ones actions.
Observe : How the child deals with his frustrations independently, and interfere only if required.
Teach them to be independently accountable with life skills to resolve the conflict on their own , including problem solving, practicing
calmness, staying optimistic and to act with integrity .
Supportive Parenting - Without Hovering
Earn Vs Deserve
Children should not be “used to” special treatment, or unwanted praises when not required.
Every child deserves an equal chance at a sports team or scholarship.
Your child shouldn’t expect to get something they don’t deserve or didn’t Earn.
This may help child to learn to accept that their work won’t always be appreciated and needs extra efforts and preparation.
Besides, child / teen will also be aware of his/her self-worth and become responsible for own actions or conduct.