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Personalit
20%
y from you
What is seen
Charact
80%
er really are
What you
Your inside
Personality and character Ethics
:Personality
Say
Do
20%
Skills & techniques
Public
Lubricate the process
Of human interaction
Character:
Integrity
Fidelity
Humility
Patience
Justice
80%
Modesty, simplicity
Courage, temperance
Character:
Integrity
Fidelity
Humility
Patience
Justice 80%
Modesty, simplicity
Courage, temperance
Foundational Principles
Developing Habits
Paradigm lens
YOU
VALUES
SEE
PRINCIPLES
DO THINK
Paradigm Shift
VALUES
SEE
PRINCIPLES
DO THINK
Seven Habits Paradigm
Interdependence
5 Seek 1st to 6
Understand Public Synergize
.. Victory
7
4 Think Win/Win
Sharpen
The saw Independence
3 Put 1st things 1st
Private 2
1
Be proactive Victory
Begin with end
in mind
Dependence
Maturity Continuum
It is the outline of the
(Seven habits of highly effective people)
Dependence YOU
Independence I
Interdependence WE
:Pavlov Theory
Animals
not humans!!!
Habit One:
.(Be Proactive (Contd
Proactive Model
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
Be a Transitional Figure
Freedom to choose
Different response
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
• All the problems we face can be:
– Direct Control: yourself
– Indirect Control: others
– No Control: weather- natural catastrophes
• Believe this: You always have the 1st key for
solving the problem
Response-Ability
u se n
o Fam o
What most Irritates you? Sp ily ss
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s se
P o
re
su
ea
Pl
Habit Two:
Begin with the end in mind
Family Money
Friend Possession
PRINCIPLES
Pleasure
Spouse
Self Work
• Conclusions:
– Know yourself, know your center
Paradigm Shift
Emotional Bank
(+)DEPOSIT (-)WITHDRAWEL
100+ 300-
500+ 200-
600+ 700-
1100= 1200=
Emotional Bank:
Six Main Deposits
• Understanding People
– man/women, children, different centers.
• Attending to little things:
– Little things are the big things
• Keeping Commitments
Emotional Bank:
Six Main Deposits
• Clarifying expectations
– ALLAH, marriage
– Lose/Win
– Lose/Lose
• Psychomosotic
• Devil
– Win/Lose
• selfish
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach
• Character:
– Integrity:
• Union between character and personality
– Maturity:
• Courage to express your opinion and respect and
appreciate the others’
– Abundance Mentality:
• There is always room for everyone
• Opposite to scarcity mentality: selfishness
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Lose/Win Win/Win
Lose/Lose Win/Lose
noit ar e di s no C
Courage
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach (Contd.)
• Relationships:
– Based on emotional bank
– Aware of the account
– Many withdrawals less trust no win/win
• Agreements:
– Agree on: targets, plans, methods, consequences,
good or bad
• Systems and processes: Gods’ system
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
• Conclusions:
– It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a better
way.
– Win/Win means courage and consideration
– Integrity, maturity, abundance mentality
– There is always room for everyone
– Be aware of your emotional bank accounts
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand
then to be understood
Habit Five:
….Seek first to understand
• We were taught how to talk, walk, write but to
listen….????
COLLECTIVE MONOLOGUE
(THE DIALOGUE OF DEATH!!!(
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Listening:
– 7%: words
7%
– 38%: vocals
55%
– 55%: non-verbal 38%
• impressions
• Eye looks (100%
expressing)
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Levels of listening:
– Ignorive
– Pretentive: nodding and humming
– Selective
– Attentive: focus on the words
– Empathic:
• Listens to understand
• Gets what behind the words
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• BECAUSE WE LISTEN THROUGH OUR OWN
PARADIGM WE TEND TO:
-Probe
- Evaluate
- Interpret
- Advice
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
Levels of misunderstanding:
1. Appearance: age, gender, language, clothing
2. Association: work, education, home, club
3. Interests: hobbies, friends
4. Thoughts
5. Values and believes: paradigm
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
1
You can never understand a 20% 2
3
person if you listen to him 4
5
– Pathos (20%):
• From passion: express your emotions
– Logos (10%):
• From logic: make sense
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Conclusions:
– Empathic listening is the essence of human
communication.
– If you do your best to understand people, indeed they
will understand you.
– Do not jump to conclusions
– More understanding more trust more influence
Habit Six:
Synergize
Habit Six:
Synergize
• The essence of synergy is to:
– Value differences
– Respect others
– Build on strength
– Compromise for weakness
Respectful (Compromise)
TS URT
COOPERATION
DRIVING VS RESTRAINING
FORCE
• It is all about:
– Self-renewal
– P/PC balance
Habit seven:
Sharpen your saw
Physical
Exercise, nutrition
Stress management
Mental Social/Emotional
Reading, RENEWAL Synergy, empathy
Planning, Family activities,
Visualizing Social activities
Spiritual
Religious activities,
Prayers
BALANCE Effectiveness
Habit seven:
Sharpen your saw
DO
Commit Learn
Commit
Do Learn
Do Commit
Learn
Do Commit
Learn