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Identification of and solutions for

Power Struggles between co-
co-workers

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O Àaddenism
O ´Negative behaviors are a sign of an unmet need.µ
O When do you feel out of power?

O How do you think gaining power from others will

help you?
O Goal of a power struggle-
struggle-to undermine the strength
and power of someone else for your own gain
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O ifferent than classic ´bullyingµ
O Instead of physical force or overt actions, focused on
covert behaviors called ´power gamesµ-
gamesµ-spreading
rumors, sabotaging, lying (passive-
(passive-aggressive)
O Goal is to exert power over others & hide insecurities
O No direct conflict or confrontation ² ´Conflict can be
solvedµ
O irect confrontation by target fails-
fails-bully has an
explanation for each move & will turn it around to
blame the target for the problems
O Bully ´sucks upµ to boss, which leads to the target
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O º.O.O--ºocused on Others
º.O.O
O Second Person Point of View in language &
thoughts--He, she, you, they
thoughts
O ´Àakeµ someone

O ºocused on responding instead of listening

O Kill the messenger, ignore the message
O Secrets to keep the appearance
O Andre Agassi - ´Image is everything.µ
  
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O Competition with co-

co-workers
O o I look better or worse? Can I make them look
worse?
O ´When the new CEO gets here, I·m going to crawl
up their a$$ faster and deeper than anyone else.µ
O Personal goals instead of group goals
O Are you different around the boss or those under
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O Offense, efense & Teammates

O o you report what others do or what you do? Is the
reporting balanced?
O Are you keeping score and holding onto past problems with
others?
O Àobbing--power games employed by others and ´usµ vs.
Àobbing
´themµ occurs-
occurs-hurts both target & employer
O Commands & emands
O ishonesty
O Complete fabrication, white lies, omission of information,
exaggerations, ´oopsµ info
  
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O Pulling Rank - ´Because I am the boss & I said

so!µ
O Àaking a problem that is not there
O ´Today·s youth is rotten to the core, it is evil,
godless and lazy. It will never be what youth used to
be, and it will never be able to preserve our culture.µ
   
  
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O º.O.S.--ºocus on Self
º.O.S.
O ºirst Person Point of View-
View-language & thoughts
O Self awareness of own cues-
cues-what do I feel/think
when in a power struggle?
O Self awareness of weaknesses & strengths

O Strength to hear, listen and admit when wrong or

take direction/suggestions from those ´belowµ
O ´What am I doing to help cause the problem, and
what can I do to help solve the problem?µ
   
  
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O ºocus on the information, not who said it

O ºocus on the group goal & group decisions
O Consistency--be the same no matter who is there
Consistency
O Remind self of being on the same team
O Problems go directly to one another-
another-cliques die
today
O ºocus on the Here and Now
   
  
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O Complete, total and exact honesty

O Genuineness is vital
O Willingness to confront and be confronted-
confronted-
Cowboy up!
O Ask, ask, ask, ask, ask, ask, ask, ask, ask, ask
O Be prepared to be uncomfortable
O Know the role you play-
play-both perceived and true