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Recap
Questions
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Process of convincing people to think or act in a certain way Intentional and unintentional persuasion
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Please describe a situation where you had to PERSUADE someone to do something. How did you go about it? Were you successful? Context Action
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Result
Exercises
Listening exercise
http://www.esl-lab.com/learn/learnrd1.htm
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Definition of Assertiveness
An honest, direct, and appropriate expression of one's feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.
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Can you express negative feelings about other people and their behaviors without using abusive language? Are you able to exercise and express your strengths? Can you easily recognize and compliment other peoples achievements?
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Do you have the confidence to ask for what is rightfully yours? Can you accept criticism without being defensive? Do you feel comfortable accepting compliments? Are you able to stand up for your rights?
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Can you comfortably start and carry on a conversation with others? Do you ask for assistance A yes response to the when you need it ?
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Helps achieve individual and/or shared goals Can reach your goals maintaining your rights and dignity
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Assertive Rights
You have the right to be assertive You have the right to request that others
change their behavior if they are infringing on your rights You have the right to use your own time to answer questions You have the right to express your needs even if they are illogical
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What Assertiveness Is
Respect for yourself and others Honestly expressing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs Effectively influencing, listening, and negotiating with others
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Assertiveness is not aggressiveness or selfishness Is not humiliating or abusing other people and their rights It is not violating the rights of others or gaining at others expense
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Aggressivenes s Is
E Inappropriately expressing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in a way that violates other peoples rights E Achieving your goal by not allowing others the freedom to choose E Disrespecting others
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Do you become abusive, whether it be verbal or physical, when criticizing others? Do you purposely make others feel like they are incompetent or unimportant? Do you make unreasonable demands of other people?
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Do you brag or exaggerate your achievements? Do you ignore the rights and feelings of other people? Do you aim to get your way at all costs? Do you often dominate conversations with others?
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Acting Unassertiveness Is
Acting in an indirect or passive manner Permitting others to take advantage of you Thinking that you and your needs are inferior to others and their needs
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or carrying on a conversation?
Do you rarely stand up for yourself?
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no to people?
Are you unable to ask other
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A Passive Person
Speak softly and hesitantly Use fillers like uh and um. Avoid eye contact Allow other people in their personal space
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An Aggressive Person
Infringes on others rights, using fear and intimidation to get what he or she wants
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Raise their voices when they lose control Shout and use language like You should and You must. Stare people down and may invade other peoples personal space 3/16/12 physically
An Assertive Person
Asserts his or her own rights in a positive, open, honest, and selfconfident manner Assertive people
H Speak calmly and confidently H Uses statements with I think and
usually:
I feel. H Maintain eye contact, have good posture and are in control
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Several Tips
Be cognizant of your expression Do not act hastily or in anger Remain calm, cool, courteous &
collected
Avoid making mountains out of
molehills
Following these simple suggestions will present you as someone who is confident & optimistic -as opposed to someone who is hostile and angry
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Do good work, get respect, BUT get nowhere when it comes to career advancement. Where do all their efforts They may be assertive go? for the organization they work for, but fall short when it comes to standing up for themselves. 3/16/12
Hamst ers
Invisible Beings
They do good work BUT nobody knows it. Their unassertiveness lets others take credit for their achievements and that leaves
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Pitbulls
Their overly aggressive behavior gets in the way of their success at work They may be good workers, but the disruption and tension they create makes them disliked and puts them on the defensive 3/16/12
Dream ers
Day-dreaming shows a lack of self control that keeps them from advancing. This lack of focus may indicate low selfesteem.
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They constantly complain about exactly what they dont like, yet expect others to speak up and change the situation They do nothing to affect the change themselves, no matter how much taking decisive actions would help remedy their complaints 3/16/12
Whin ers
Mut es
They have a problem saying no and, for that matter, much of anything at all They take everything thats given, whether they like it or not, and their passivity makes them over-worked and stressed
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Disagree in both a passive and active manner depending on the situation Always ask questions
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Be friendly and sincere with the people you would like to know better; give them a chance to get to know you
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Get a Grip
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First Impressions
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Dont lose sight of your goal, and remember that upkeep is a life-long
Game Plan
Analyzing your skills How do you plan to improve you Interpersonal communication skill Mention the time frame
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Evaluation
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Interpersonal Communication
Session V & VI Neha Jasani
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Assignment evaluation
Peer evaluation
Faculty evaluation
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Interpersonal Communication
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Culture and communication are inseparable The core of stand-point theory Enculturation Acculturation In-group/out-group identification
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Achievement culture
Places high value on material success and a focus on the task at hand regards the support of relationships as an important goal a. Hard cultures: Japan, Switzerland, and Germany.
Nurturing culture
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Individualist cultures
Value individual accomplishments characterized by self-reliance and competition (Examples: U.S., Canada, Australia and Great Britain.)
Collectivist cultures
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Intensifying- further pursuing Integration- intense friendships, close business partnerships, romantic commitments Bonding
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Reverse pattern
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Always try to negotiate for at least15 minutes Offer to let the other party speak first Respect and listen to what your opponent has to say Acknowledge what the other party says Pay attention to your own and your counter partner's body language
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Walking out of the room Offering a short-term bribe Telling you to take it or leave it Giving an ultimatum Abrupt change in tone Introducing new requests Adopting the Mr. Nice Guy persona
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Preparation
What is my main objective? What are all of the alternatives I can think of? Why do I deserve to
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Resolve previous conflicts ahead of time Deal with issues, not personalities Listen A common mistake is to prepare one's next question or point while the opponent is speaking Establish trust in the onset
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Collaborative Negotiating
Men and Women communicate very differently almost as though they come from different planets At times they would perceive the same message to have different meanings
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Listening exercise
http://www.esl-lab.com/learn/learnrd1.h
If speaking is silver, then listening is gold. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. "Never forget that only dead fish swim with the stream. "The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
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Generic theme
Styles of communication Conflict resolution using effective communication Cultural difference as a barrier of communication Gender Differences in Interpersonal communication Negotiation
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Evaluation Guidelines
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Quiz
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POA BAU TGIF BID AKA ASAP KISS RSVP SWOT USP DINK FMCG COB EOD DIY
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