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Front cover photo: 1972. John, Margaret, Ken, and Susanne playing
fort at Cannon Beach.
Back cover photo: 1995. Joel watching Mom bottle feed a lamb.
Our house was not too damaged, but the neighbor’s oak tree fell on On the Roy house remodeling, eventually Mom attacked the down-
the front of their house, so they had to take out the “sour paw” ( John’s stairs, tearing down to the bare studs, applying vapor barrier and in-
Jim recalls that once the kids read all they had at the Cornelius li-
brary, she moved on to the Forest Grove, then the Hillsboro com-
munity libraries. Jim said, “The Forest Grove library was right next
to the creamery where Mom would drop off the cream after she ran
it through the separator.” He said, “My FFA ledger showed a decent
income from the sale of the cream, but I don’t ever remember receiv-
ing any proceed from it.” But then he added, “Come to think of it, I
don’t remember ever paying for any of the grain or hay that my cows
ate either.”
Tony said the only other person he knew with such a well-organized
library was Mom’s Aunt Lilly Grossenbacher Shaw. It was in the back
room of her house, and after stepping by Uncle Harry who was sur-
rounded by bottles of miracle elixirs and constantly patting himself
down with something, you came to dark oak bookshelves, some with
lawyer style lift-up glass door panels, all filled with edition bound
books. And in one corner of a bookshelf was her vintage stereoscope
that you would insert one of the assorted picture cards and view a
multi-dimension slide show. As far as her book collection, we don’t
know if she lent any of them out, and whether she sent late notices to
delinquent readers. Joyce added, “I recall Aunt Lilly being very pleased
with us for examining and spending time with her books. I can almost
hear her chuckle of delight!”
Sometime after we got Grandma Evers’ piano, Mom began giving the Jim spun his wheels on about page 41 of Michael Aaron’s Grade 1, play-
older kids piano lessons. A practice schedule was posted on the refrig- ing “The Indian War Dance”. The piece had an underlying deep base
erator and everyone took their turn on a daily basis running through rhythm with some treble calls that he practiced repetitiously for six
their weekly lessons. Mom had a stylish classic metronome sitting on months or more, consuming his total minutes of daily practice time.
the piano, but it was rarely used during practice. Usually she kept us on With a good heart, Mom exempted Jim from completing the three
time with a wooden spoon. lesson volumes and permitted him to learn drums instead. However
he dreamt of learning on a whole drum set, Mom spared the family the
After moving into the EverMay Farm house in Verboort, Mom re- clamor, and bought just the snare. But as it turned out, the joke was
ceived Grandma Miller’s piano. The instrument came loaded with on all of us who were relieved at the reprieve from the monotonous
memories and when Mom sat down and played Gospel hymns on it, war dance. Just after Mom, who was a percussionist in the West Linn
it really came to life. The instrument was made of richer, more ornate High School band, gave Jim an introduction on the snare drum and
wood than our current piano so it was the revered furniture piece in how to properly hold the sticks, he adapted his beloved piece to the
the house. The kids all thought it looked great, but Mom thought new instrument.
the finish had been neglected while in Grandpa Miller’s hands, so she
cooked a concoction she got from the Extension Service which in-
cluded turpentine and linseed oil to apply by elbow grease over the
piano’s fine wood. The kids gathered around to watch the transforma- “Didn’t you know that EVERYBODY
tion of our ‘new’ piano as Mom started to work her magic. Someone
mentioned that the mixture smelled strange, like something burning,
knows the John Philip Sousa, “Stars
but Mom proceeded with the restoration. Then smoke filled the room and Stripes Forever” march?”
and we knew something was wrong. The concoction that was being
warmed on the kitchen stove had caught fire and flames were shooting
to the ceiling. Fortunately in a sausage making house there were al-
ways large containers of salt, so that was doused on the fire, and it was Tony continued past Michael Aaron Grade 3, and suggested to Mom
extinguished before more extensive damage could occur. The damage that he was interested in continuing with the piano; however it was
was confined to the overhead fan which was reimbursed by insurance disconcerting to him that when the rest of his classmates would dis-
(so when we moved out of the Verboort house back to Roy we took play their talents during ‘show and tell’, he didn’t have anything to do
that fan and installed it there.) because there was no piano in the classroom. So Mom dusted off her
accordion and started giving him lessons on that. Then when he had
Mom started everyone on the Michael Aaron series piano books, and mastered it sufficiently to play a medley of songs, he lugged the 50
once we passed the third volume, we got the chance to learn another pound box to school and beamingly performed for his class, starting
instrument of our choice. Joyce, the oldest, was the first to cross the with something like, “Beer Barrel Polka”. He was laughed out of the
line, and she chose to take up the cello. The rest of the kids were elated classroom for playing a box they said belonged in a museum, so he
lugged it back home and convinced Mom to teach him some other
Then it came Tony’s turn to play his piece. He started with the dra-
matic introduction and took full control of the piece. But once he got
to the middle part, he couldn’t remember the notes, so just continued
making up something to fill in time until he’d return to the ending part
that was instilled in his memory. Tony was satisfied that he didn’t even
wince when he forgot the piece, just kept playing, and was sure that
Mom would be proud. Tony didn’t think that anyone in the audience
would notice, given that he thought he was playing an obscure march.
Mom was very embarrassed that he butchered the work, “Didn’t you
know that EVERYBODY knows the John Philip Sousa, “Stars and
Stripes Forever” march?”
Mom was a safe (but fast) driver and was concerned about the safety
As the boys picked themselves up from the road and brushed the One late August when Mom and Dad took us to the Oregon State
gravel off, they gave each other a startled look, not yet sure what had Fair, she reminded us as we got out of the car of our ‘normal pairing’,
happened, it all went so fast and they were disoriented. At the other the responsibility that each of the older kids had for their assigned
end of Evers road, Mom had just arrived at Grandma’s house, parked younger sibling. That was before Susanne was born, so John was in
the car and got out to open the back seat door to let her two sons the middle, responsible for just himself. The family spent an enjoy-
out. To her surprise, they weren’t in the car. So she got back in and able day at the fair generally viewing 4-H, open-class, and commercial
drove back to Evers road to look for them. By now it was dark out- exhibits, given their weekly allowance didn’t afford much more than
side and John and Tony noticed some headlights coming toward them. cotton candy or an ice cone (although Jim and Tony later boasted of
They thought it was a stranger and didn’t want to get ran over so they all the carnival rides they had taken after fishing coins out of landscape
jumped and hid in the ditch until the car passed. Mom circled around fountains). At the end of the day, the kids showed up at the designated
a few times and they hid again in the ditch, not knowing it was her car. spot, a very crowded post that evening, and had their charges in-hand,
At some point either she spotted them or they recognized the car and so the family proceeded to the parking lot and left the fairgrounds. A
they were reunited. Mom drove them back to Grandma’s house who ways out of Salem, Mom turned around and asked, “Where’s John?”
gave them both a treat. John headed out to the barn and Tony stayed We did a count off and, sure enough, John was absent. So we made a
in the house where they doctored him up, pulling some of the gravel u-turn and the folks nervously drove back to the fair.
out of his skin and painted his scratches up with iodine tincture.
Back at the State Fair, we were all assigned to check out certain ar-
John loved being in the barn: He particularly enjoyed roping and rid- eas, then return to the designated spot (most likely the dairy barn),
ing calves. But as he got better with roping, he found that the simple but everyone turned up empty handed. Mom checked with Lost and
baling twine just wasn’t robust enough. So the end of the cow feeder Found but no person of John’s description had been reported. About
where there was a mountain of baling twine became his workshop, then, the rodeo had ended, and John was eventually spotted leaving
the arena strutting behind Al Lindow, a Holstein breeder, who Dad
Joyce recalls when the family was living in the EverMay Farm’s ‘other
place’ house while she was a first grader at Visitation Grade School,
that she came down with both chicken pox and the measles, which
made her miss about six weeks of school. Of course she shared the
germ with her siblings, so Jim, Tony, and Jane also came down with the
illnesses (Somehow John was spared because he was but a tiny one).
Joyce said, “Mom had brought all of the mattresses down from upstairs
and lined them up in the living room to make it easier to handle all
of the sickness at once. Mom took good care of us when we were sick,
and having a passel of sick kids would not have been fun.”
The family first tuned in to 4-H when Joyce, the oldest, became a
member of Mom and Pat Dierickx’s led 4-H sewing club. The bi-
weekly meetings would rotate and be hosted at various member’s
home, but when it was hosted at the Evers’ home, the siblings would
have to try to be quiet and observe from afar. The formality of the
meetings which used ‘Robert’s Rules Of Orders’, was interesting for
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the kids but more than that, seeing their Mother lead and teach a ment of the Roy School. We created some curry dish that had lots
group of mostly strangers new things like she had been doing it all of of toppings, I imagine this was something that she had while visiting
her life, made them want to participate. However they were told that Aunt Peggy, where there were bowls upon bowls of things that you can
4-H members had to be at least nine years old; therefore for now, Joyce add to the top of a pile of rice and sauce. My friends and I were so
was the only family member who could be in 4-H. proud of this beautiful feast with all the fancy dishes and place settings.
We served the teachers and hid out in the kitchen watching their reac-
As each of the kids attainted membership age, Mom organized the tions, waiting for the effusive praise that we so rightly deserved! I can
family 4-H calendar getting everyone to their respective meetings, fol- still see Sister Ruth’s red face as she sat continuously chewing on celery
lowing up on each person’s 4-H record keeping, and making sure that stick after celery stick trying to put out the fire. Apparently we made
any held office duties were accomplished, such as the club secretary the dinner a wee bit spicier then the nuns might have liked.”
properly writing up the meeting minutes and her favorite, the club
news reporter, writing up and sending a report to the local newspaper. It seemed that cooking wasn’t one of Mom’s passions, so maybe she
Thanks to that, we all have lots of Forest Grove Times and Hillsboro had ulterior motives to have the kids join the 4-H Cooking Club.
Argus articles in our scrapbooks highlighting our personal 4-H in- Joyce was the first one to be trained so Mom very smartly handed that
volvement, activities, and contest winnings. task on to her at a young age. At first the younger kids were jealous
because that meant Joyce got out of the after dinner chores of clearing
Christine Peters was a member of Mom’s 4-H Sewing club for a num- the table and washing and drying the dishes. But in the end, we all
ber of years and said that she is forever grateful to Mom for pushing agree that it was a brilliant move as Joyce’s early start and sufficient
her and the rest of the members to learn and do all that they possibly practice has served the family well for many years! Tony managed
could in 4-H sewing and fashion show. Christine remarked, “Your to escape cooking for the family because he quickly took a liking to
Mom made it fun while we learned how to sew and best present our- adding food coloring to everything he prepared. His initial rendition
selves. Mostly, she helped us grow in confidence. I think of her so of green eggs and ham got some chuckles, but following a repeat per-
often whenever I do a presentation in front of adults. I tell myself that formance, Mom said that was enough. Joyce remembers Tony coming
this is like a demonstration at the fair, and I can do THIS!” up with some pretty bizarrely colored popcorn balls, which of course
were quickly eaten regardless. And John added, “Tony also managed
Tony remembers Mom leading both a 4-H Cooking and Sewing Club to get out of doing the dishes as well because he would mysteriously
when he was 9 in which he was encouraged and became a member. always have the urge to go number two for twenty minutes precisely
One of the highlights of the Cooking Club was planning, preparing, at the end of dinner.”
and serving a multi-course dinner for member’s parents. “It was a
big deal for us,” Tony recalls, “We got dressed in Sunday best, set the We would occasionally have some unique vegetables appear at the din-
table to English standards, and cooked and served a great meal, in my ner table which were grown in our garden. Mom would receive Gur-
humble opinion. Recipes were followed carefully for each of the en- ney’s and some other seed catalogues in the mail and we would peruse
trees, and cups, tablespoons and teaspoons were used with precision to to pick out the things we would plant in the spring. Kohl Rabi was a
measure each of the ingredients for the dishes.” table standard, but none of our friends ever had it at their homes. One
year Mom ordered some purple potato tubers which seemed to flour-
Margaret had a similar experience in her 4-H Cooking Club. She said, ish quite well. Joyce recalls, “they looked so weird with butter melting
“One year Mom had us make a fancy dinner for the nuns in the base- on them when mashed and turning colors where it melted. We always
In between all the vegetables, Mom did manage to fit in a fair amount
“I so appreciate Mom allowing me of flowers. First there was Jim’s project, a two-step railroad tie retain-
to ‘help’ as I pulled out many flowers, ing wall along the garden side of the house that kept the soil at bay
from the foundation. This included significant space for early flower-
leaving behind the pretty weeds.” ing flower varieties and interplanted with geraniums and other colorful
spots giving spring to late autumn color viewed from the double living
room windows. Eventually a weeping blue Atlas cedar was planted
alongside where cars parked and the flower bed was extended out to
After everyone’s exhibits were complete, we turned to the other side the driveway. This project was accelerated when Tim Dierickx gave
of the hall where identification and judging contests were being held. Mom some Round Up and showed her how it was possible to control
Mom encouraged us to participate in the related activities, and during quack grass, and gave more room for hosting lovely geranium plants
the non-gardening month meetings, she quizzed all of us on insect including the latest, Martha Washington, and other annuals. Mom
and weed identification. So at the fair we walked around the tables would winter the geraniums in the girl’s room to get a head start for
where assorted pests were on display and attempted to identify them, the next summer.
writing down their names on our contest sheets. We typically did well
in these contests. Margaret recalled, “I never was a big fan of gardening, although I did
love the colorful flower beds that we had around the house. And I so
Of course some of the weed identification came easy, particularly the appreciate Mom allowing me to ‘help’ as I pulled out many flowers,
ones that we were sent out periodically to chop out of the cow and leaving behind the pretty weeds. Now I try in vain every year to do
sheep pasture, like tansy ragwort and bull thistle. Joyce recalls the kids a little something with color to brighten my day, but I will say that I
being paid for taking out noxious weeds. She said, “We were paid a have NEVER included geraniums. As pretty as they might be, they
penny a piece for those. I recall working really hard for several days stink to high heaven. After years of smelling the mason jars filled with
in a row in the hot sun, and coming in to collect my ‘due’ and being
Jim and Tony scoured the rest of the commercial exhibit area looking
for other freebies: a lot of the booths had posted ‘Sign Up For A Prize’;
so with time on their hands in between barn duty, they did just that.
They became rampant in filling out all of the ‘drawing’ slips writing
the home address and telephone number, certain that they would win
one of those grand prizes. As it turned out, a couple of weeks after the
fair, Mom became inundated with telephone calls and some door-to-
door peddlers. One particular encyclopedia salesman showed up at
the farm so many times, pestering Mom to buy a set, that she finally
mentioned ‘Mr. Pushy’ to Dad, who came walking up to the house
with a sledge hammer in hand, which seemed to suffice as a ‘no sale’
notice. After that incident, Tony and Jim were no longer allowed to
visit commercial booths at the fair.
Mom called the kids out to the barn to help with the afternoon milk-
ing of the 100 cow herd. It was a stanchion milking barn so grain
needed to be scooped into the feeders, a group of cows let in, locked in
place, udders washed, and then milked. Sometimes a cow would have
laid in a cow pie in the pasture or her sleeping stall, making her udder
really dirty, totally coated with manure. It would need an intensive
cleaning before putting on the milking machine. Mom noticed that
Tony, in particular, would skip the dirty cows and move down the line
While the last of the cows were being milked, the kids would feed
milk by bucket to the young calves. They would always save a bit of
milk to splash in a container in the corridor of the calf barn and several
dozen cats would converge to partake of it. The cats were not pets but
just always around. Some of them would hang around the back porch
entrance to the farm house waiting for table scraps. The porch was a
built-in enclosure that housed the washer and dryer and the entrance
to the kitchen. Mom generally did the laundry there – it wasn’t until
we moved back to Roy that she assigned some of the kids this task.
On one brisk winter day, she pulled warm clothes from the dryer and
after transferring the washing machine load of white clothes, she was
1994. Mom with Ken and Erin and family. interrupted, leaving the dryer door open. Shortly she returned, closed
the door and set the heating dial for 60 minutes. After the dryer
cycle was complete, she found that her white load had all turned pink.
Inadvertently a cat had jumped into the dryer finding a warm spot
during the pause, and ended up coloring all of the clothes. If only she
had trademarked the tie-dyed fashion look before Jerry Garcia took
all the credit.
It was shortly after we moved to the farm that Mom bought two hors-
es, Ginger and Pepper, both aptly named for their coloration. Mom
took her two saddles, an English and a Western, out of storage along
with lots of bridles, straps and other gear. We learned all about sad-
dle soap and spent lots of hours rubbing, cleaning, and polishing the
leather, bringing it back to life. Tony wanted some spurs to ride with,
but Mom told him he had to earn them first, learning to ride and
gaining the horse’s respect. With maybe just one riding lesson from
Mom, he thought he knew it all, and decided to take Pepper to the
Verboort School playground to show off to everyone. Instead of going
Margaret said, “Apparently Mom felt sorry for me so she borrowed One of our favorite pastimes on the farm was building and playing in
Uncle Gene’s pony, ‘Tiny May’, an absolutely beautiful Shetland pony. hay forts. There was a lot of hay for that activity: the whole upstairs
I spent lots of time galloping her up and down the driveway. She only of the large main barn was filled with hay, above the milking barn,
seemed to have one speed, and I LOVED it! One day Mom pulled and hay was stacked high on top the plastic covered silage in the pit
into the driveway and we raced her up the driveway. Mom got out silo. We would build long tunnels under the hay to get to hidden
and asked me why the pony was bucking and I proudly replied that forts and use them in hide and seek games. One time Ken tattled to
was Tiny May’s gallop. Tiny May went back to Uncle Gene’s shortly Mom on one of us for probably doing something we shouldn’t have
thereafter!” been doing; but nonetheless, we didn’t appreciate getting in trouble, so
we decided to sequester Ken in one of the ‘deluxe’ forts which was on
Margaret continued, “The best horsing around was when Mom finally top the silage pit. We managed to lure him inside then stacked over
got so fed up with my lack of berry picking skills, she somehow got the entrance. Just as we were finishing up, we heard Mom doing her
me linked up with the Lewis’ who lived beside the Dierickx’s berry whistle call all the way from the house, which meant it was lunch time,
farm. I would go ride their horse as often as possible, and we rode all and with all that heavy hay handling, we sure were hungry. We washed
over the farm. I would rip around at break neck speed in back pastures up and then sat at the table expecting to be served like any ordinary
where the grass was taller than the horse. No one ever new where I day. But Mom came to the table and immediately looked at the plate
was, nor did I think of all the rusty farm implements buried in the setting that was missing a person. “Where’s Ken?” she asked. “We
grass, or gopher holes waiting for me to have a serious accident, but don’t know,” everyone responded. “Well we can’t eat until someone
life was beautiful on the back of that horse! Every time he came to a finds him,” Mom replied. For so many kids to not know where he was,
railroad tie bridge, he would stand up and do the “Hi Ho Silver” thing. it didn’t take them long to go to the fort, open it up, and release him.
I thought that was so very cool.” Margaret said, “Years later, when
Mom, Erin and I were taking fancy riding lessons from this renowned As it turned out, Ken ended up being the master fort builder of the
Arab horse lady, she mentioned that if any of her horses feet ever came family. Maybe it had to do with that hour or so in confinement with
off the ground, they would be dog food. How was I to know that the ample time to reflect on it’s construction. Joyce commented, “Ken is
Lone Ranger was riding dangerously? His horse, Silver, did it several known by many of Mom’s grandkids and great grandkids as the fort
times every episode!” builder, as he can indeed create quite a series of tunnels and twists. For
example, he recently build a fort in Mom’s hay loft for Anika’s birthday
Jane remembers well Mom’s whistle saying, “It was famous and so in- Mom hosted a Grossenbacher Picnic at EverMay Farms the end of the
credibly loud. It seemed like you could hear it miles away. And then first summer we lived there. There had been a lot of “stuff ” and junk
one day it disappeared. Perhaps she didn’t need it any more to corral left laying all around. Our Uncles, Dad’s brothers, would bring old
kids, maybe lack of use. For some reason she lost the skill. It seems a parts that they currently didn’t need, but might have use for later, and
strange skill to lose.” just dump them for safe keeping at the family farm. Mom, with the
kids help, scoured the whole place, cleaning and organizing, and got it
While living on EverMay Farms, there was the ‘other place’, that was into tip top shape for the family gathering. The State Dairy Inspector
next to a golf course and we would occasionally go comb the pasture even commented that it was about time that the place got a thorough
right next to it looking for over-shot balls. We had collected quite a cleaning as with so many previous violations, he was contemplating
few of them and the good ones, free of nicks and scratches, at times downgrading the milk license from “A” to “B” grade. Separately Mom
we would sell to our uncles. We were also curious about what was also hosted Aunt Jean and her kids at the farm. Tony remembers he
inside the balls and took advantage of the farm shop’s vice and tools to and John showing cousin Brian how to drive a tractor when they were
cut them open. They all had yards and yards of rubber band wrapped picking up hay.
around an inner smaller ball, which in many cases was just hard rubber
that didn’t bounce much. In other cases, we found the ball was filled We had quite a large garden the first year in Verboort, and with it a
with a heavy liquid and would delight in puncturing and watching it bountiful harvest. So like all good little Catholic gardeners, we loaded
spew. a bunch of the produce in our wagon and rolled it down to the local
Joyce recalls her first and second grade year especially, when she had
to memorize parts of the Baltimore catechism, so she would bring it
as homework hoping Mom would help her. The prayers and responses
to the questions were not all that easy to master. Joyce said, “Instead
Mom would make sure that I understood the concepts of the teach-
ings and could defend them. So, inevitably, I wouldn’t be able to spit
them back at school in the exact formula, and I recall spending a few
recesses indoors! If only the nuns had asked me to explain them, I
would have nailed that! Those Presbyterians!! Or was it prostitutes,
that Margaret confused with the word, Protestant.”
Margaret remembers Mom driving the Mercury to and from the berry
fields, hitting the small hills just right so it felt as if we were flying,
and that was a very heavy car. Margaret recalled, “The best part was
when she drove in reverse. I think she saw Tim Dierickx drive back-
wards at a fast pace one day, and from that moment on, it seemed like
everywhere we drove she was doing it fast and in reverse as much as
possible.”
Tony recalls going with Mom in the brown Mercury to visit Jeannie
Routtu at her parent’s house in Portland. She parked the car in front
of their house and was inside chatting with Jeannie around her grand
piano. When Consuelo, Jeannie’s Mom, returned from church, she
came into the house and screamed to her son, “Reggie, I told you not
to let your friends park their junkers in front of my house...please have
them move it to the back.” Jeannie and Mom both looked out the
window and Mom turned to her and sheepishly said, “Oh, that must
be my car she is talking about.” So Jeannie went over and calmed her
mother down.
Camping trips were the one event that no one seemed to mind Mom’s
cheery morning wakeup call as everyone was keen to go despite the
early hour. Mom would post a chore list on the refrigerator so ev-
And we typically had uneventfully safe travels with Mom keeping the On the way home we got another chance to unload the trunk, but this
kids occupied as best as she could playing oral car games until most time due to a flat tire. The tools and the spare were well hidden be-
of the young passengers would fall asleep. But there was one camping neath the sleeping bags, starfish, seashells, drift wood, and food coolers,
trip to the Oregon Coast during which we experienced a malady of so was unloaded in assembly fashion onto the side of the shoulder-less
When we camped with extended family, aunts, uncles and their fami-
lies, the menu expanded a bit. Once while camping at Eagle Creek,
Aunt Bonnie prepared her heirloom Italian spaghetti sauce, and was
awaiting the timer to pull the spaghetti noodles from the fire to serve
them ‘al dente’. The campfire apparently produced more heat than her
stove top, overcooking the noodles a bit, leaving her traumatized to
serve the special sauce over wimpy pasta. The rest of us thought it was
1985. Mom camping with the Attias and Wadleighs delicious and fought for the left over helpings. And Jane remembers
it was a different experience to have Uncle Phil or Aunt Peggy along
with us camping. She said, “Uncle Phil always brought along his com-
plete camping food set – several cans of Pork and Beans, which he
especially enjoyed in the open air (then later provided percussion for
the campfire singing). On the other hand, Aunt Peggy’s camping food
was a bit more elaborate like stuffed grape leaves and tahini sauce.”
And another thing about camping with Aunt Peggy, is that she was
a great instigator. One time just an hour or so before the designated
family departure time, Aunt Peggy mentioned that she found a great
deal at an outdoor store chain for an inflatable canoe. Word traveled
faster than a prayer chain, and several of the parties swung by the stores
scooping up the last of the close-out bargains on the way to the camp
site. It was a great find as the locale had the perfect lake for using the
water craft and lots of kids enjoyed taking turns paddling, splashing,
and occasionally falling into the pristine water. Another activity that
Aunt Peggy instigated was the famous salamander races.
Some years after the kids were beyond toddler stage, Mom took up
backpacking and did several hike-in camping trips. We wonder if she
felt more steady while pregnant or packing a kid while hiking all those
years, so strapping on a heavy backpack put her at ease. In 1998, Mom
backpacked up to Marion Lake with Aunt Jean and Aunt Peggy. And
twenty years later, in 2008, she backpacked up to Hallerangeralm,
Austria in the rain. However, after all her careful packing for the hike,
2008. Mom backpacking with family up to Hallerangeralm, Austria she forgot one little detail, she failed to bring along some Tirolean
Folk Song sheet music so she could entertain the family on the ac-
cordion she found up at the lodge. But as wet as everyone got going
up the hill, maybe the sheet music might not have survived in the end.
One summer when Uncle Farag, Aunt Peggy, Sharif, and Sandy were
visiting from Kuwait, we took them hiking through the rain forest at
Silver Creek Falls State Park near Sublimity, Oregon, then had a pic-
nic after the hike. Every time that we would approach one of the 10 or
so waterfalls along the hike, young Sharif who had spent the previous
nine months in dry hot Kuwait, would circle his nose in the air saying,
“Look Mommie, look Mommie, feel the freshness.” Sandy would then
copy Sharif, circling her head around saying, “Awe...freshness!”
Then one day the ice was broken. A ‘non-farm animal’ appeared in
the house. A 4-H member had given Mom a pregnant Siamese cat.
Maybe the intention was that the cat would be a mouse hunter out-
side the house, but this brown eared beauty would have nothing of
that. She was a master at following anyone to the house and slipping
through the door just as it was closing. The cat bonded with Mom,
even though there were plenty of kids who gave it a lot of attention.
As the Siamese advanced in pregnancy, it started to disappear some-
where in the house for hours at a time and no one knew where it was.
Eventually while Mom was doing a thorough cleaning under her bed,
she solved the mystery. Mom had several boxes filled with 100’s of
Tony remembered one of Grandma Miller’s last trees that was snow
covered, so he always wanted to have the central house tree flocked;
but Joyce thought it was more elegant when tinseled, and had abun-
dant patience to separate and lay an individual strand of real vintage
metallic tinsel between every needle of every branch from bottom to
top of the tree. (Added to that, when “real” tinsel was discontinued in
favor of plastic stuff, at end of season, she removed every strand and
guarded it for a subsequent year’s tree.) Given the family discord be-
never attained the luxury of Aunt Christmas was a busy time, especially Christmas eve. A lot of the
activity centered around getting ready for late night mass. The boys
Elsie’s house where, whichever way were in charge of cleaning and shining all of the shoes. So the little
elves scrubbed and rubbed and spit and buffed, returning the footwear
you moved or turned, there was al- to their original luster. They also would wear bow ties, a once a year
ways a crystal bowl filled with hard occurrence, so spent time practicing getting them hooked on and get-
ting comfortable with the feel of a buttoned up neck collar. Mom
candy. would often be putting the final touches on one of the girl’s dresses
that she sewed or making alterations on a purchased one. Some of the
kids would be sent to take naps so they could endure the full evening.
Getting out the door at the designated hour was well orchestrated. It
The St. Francis Church Altar Society put on an annual Christmas
was a single file march of the annual best dressed Evers’ clan, down
Holiday Bazaar and Mom encouraged the kids to make home-made
the lane and a quarter mile hike to St. Francis Church. Can anyone
crafts to contribute to the annual fund raiser. Jane recalls the family
remember being splashed by a car passing through mud puddles while
making decorative flowers out of yarn or straw in various colors and
we were on the walk to church? It never happened because we always
styles to contribute to this event. No one remembers if our handiworks
got there plenty early. We arrived while the choir was practicing, got
sold or not, because the important take-away from this charity occa-
to hear the full hour of Christmas carols, and then listen to the full
sion was that Mom tasted and brought home a recipe for ‘Blueberry
High Mass. (No wonder Dad sat in the back as his snuff didn’t hold
Special’, a multi-layered desert of graham crackers, whipped cream,
out for so many hours.)
and blueberry sauce, that became an all-time family favorite, albeit
For instance, in 1976, Mom volunteered as the set coordinator for the
Theatre In The Grove’s Mr. Roberts production. She roped Ken to help
with the set and he became the official goat wrangler. According to
Ken, his duty was to round up the goat and keep it in the green room.
Mom sang for several years with the Forest Grove Mormon Church
“Mom drug me to many rehearsals for her Theater in the Grove per-
formances, so many that I became convinced that I could be the next
great star,” recalled Margaret, “so I tried out for Inherit the Wind.”
Margaret said, “Mom helped me practice a song for my audition,
Match Maker, from The Fiddler On The Roof. I very proudly walked
up on stage, told them all how my Mom had taken me to all the re-
hearsals for all the plays and I knew all the songs and then I began
singing and promptly forgot the words of the song. Even with that
horrific moment, I still made it into the production with an entire line
and everything. Mom helped me with my costume and on the night of
the dress rehearsal she helped me with my makeup, explaining that the
audience needed to see me from the back row. When we walked into
the back stage, one of the ladies took one look at me and said loudly “I
Following dinner we all donned galabeyas (the men wore white while
the women wore brightly colored gowns) then walked through the
village as we amassed hundreds of followers, particularly children.
We passed several horse or donkey pulled wagons with colorful ara-
bic script on their side rails. We saw a number of women and some
children balancing agriculture produce on their heads walking back
to their houses. At the end of the village road we came to the river
bank that was lined with women washing pots and pans and laundry.
Baba motioned for us to board a small rope tug ferry that we crossed
the river in, then at the opposing bank, we disembarked and wandered
through a farming trail seeing some agricultural practices in action as
well as a classic oxen turned water wheel. Mom remembered seeing
those in action during her first visit to Egypt, recalling the cows with
blinders slowly walking in a circle and hearing the soft ‘creak’, ‘creak’,
sound made from the turning of its wooden axle. But at the water
wheel we found some cows tied up grazing next to it with the irriga-
tion water being extracted by a gas powered pump. Upon returning to
Baba’s house, we had evening tea, then a few of his grandsons set up a
water pipe and had all of the men give it a try.
The next few days we all went to visit Luxor and The Valley Of The
Kings in Upper Egypt. Tony led that tour, and given we didn’t have
Farag along to quietly shoe away the many street vendors, we were
presented with ample opportunity to buy all kinds of souvenirs. While
at the bazar in Cairo, Farag had shown us how to negotiate the price,
at least half or more, when buying goods; however in Luxor, Mom
appreciated how Mike Z. delighted in paying full price for everything
rather than barter the price down, and especially buying from all the
little kids who approached us. So we ended up carrying home a few
more trinkets and became more adept at counting Egyptian coins and
bills to pay for all the goods.
After Tony received a white ribbon and was at the bottom of his class
while showing his heifer, he claims that he had wished his critter was
Sometime after the fair, Mom negotiated with our next door neighbor There was a small shed beside the cow stable that we were renting
to rent their barn and pasture, so we were able to have our 4H animals where the neighbors housed a Shetland pony that they bought for
close at hand. Soon thereafater, we got to learn about watching for their youngest daughter, Julie. She had only ridden it a couple of times
them to come into heat, timing their artificial insemination, helping and lost interest. Once when she was on vacation, she entrusted Mar-
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1994. Mom’s 60th birthday party; dinner served in her electric frying pan.
waffles, gingerbread cake, or just when the brown sugar was running had pallets of day-old pastries in his pig barn. We loaded the car’s
out. trunk with packages of bear-claws, cinnamon rolls, and assorted oth-
er pastry, filling Mom’s bench freezer and savoring those goodies for
We were definitely a walnut household. Even back at Shedd we had months after. So long, Grape-Nuts!
racks with walnuts that we gathered from the orchard drying around
the heating stove. In fact, a walnut tray too close to the stove gave us
our first house fire experience. Joyce, the second grader, had already
learned the drill at Catholic school so rounded all the kids up, marched “Once we spent the weekend at the
them out the door in single file away from the house and took roll call.
Presumably the nuns omitted training on informing your parents in
beach and got to go out to a Dairy
case of fire, or telephoning the fire brigade. Mom discovered the fire Queen, where Mom announced
herself because she was curious what the kids were doing; good thing
she was an attentive parent. She was cooking in the kitchen and as that we could get any burger on the
we marched through and disappeared out the back door, the quietness
and single file must have been intriguing in its unusualness given our
menu. That was the best!”
typical rowdiness. Joyce said, “I presume Mom figured it was a new
kind of game. Surely, had she not been made aware, that old wooden
house could well have gone up in flames.” Mom found that her kids John recalled how Mom was able to afford having lots of kids partici-
were all safe and accounted for by the drill expert, put the fire out, and pate at fairs where the food concession booths were exorbitant for a
we all went back to normal life and processing walnuts. large family. She’d bring her trusty old electric frying pan, plug it in
next to a stall where one might use a cow clippers, and would whip up
John remembers the house in Roy being swamped with walnuts and a meal for all of us. She’d also make sure we had an extra tack box that
rotating racks filled with them around the oil stove. We didn’t have a was filled with apples, typically gravensteins, but some years if they
walnut tree at Roy until years later and it didn’t produce much; how- weren’t ripe yet, then golden delicious. Also, State Fair coincided with
ever, John recalls the pleasure of helping his siblings and Mom glean our early grape harvest so we munched on a lot of those too.
walnuts from Dave and Louella Vandehey’s farm at the end of the
season. John said, “After drying them all, I remember there being a ton “There was no extra money for frivolous foods such as potato chips,”
of walnuts for our kid’s cracking and sorting production line.” John remarked. “It seems the only time those ever showed up at our
house was when the chips were used as an enticement for those who
For a couple of years we had everything made with filberts. Uncle Joe could finish eating their allotment of liver. We’d go out to a restau-
got filbert rejects for cow feed from a local processing plant, and Jim, rant once a year or so, and when we did, we were limited to the basic
who was working there, daily scarfed up buckets of the better looking burger.” John exclaimed, “Once we spent the weekend at the beach
ones to bring home. Maybe it had to do with him not liking to crack and got to go out to a Dairy Queen, where Mom announced that we
walnuts, as these all came pre-cracked; regardless, everyone enjoyed could get any burger on the menu. That was the best!”
having all the goodies and whole filberts to munch on even though
they were seconds. But the best ‘pig-out’ on second-hand food that A standing meal time house rule was to take a modest helping of
we had however, was when we discovered that Grandpa Kenny Miller everything that was passed around the table, then to eat all of what
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was on your plate. For Jim, that always presented a challenge with bor’s side, she trellised a row of grapes that produced huge purple fruit.
cooked peas because he absolutely hated them; for others, liver, in par- They were typically so abundant that we had more than our fill of
ticular, was an obstacle. Fortunately, our slide out expandable table fresh ones, a lot left over for canning grape juice, and sometimes Mom
with underneath rails had channels that accommodated the unwanted would dabble at making grape wine. Later, a row of fruit trees were
portions. The pieces had to be cut to size, then at the right moment, espaliered in a row at the front side of the house, providing an assort-
scooted off the plate to the lap, then jammed into the undercarriage by ment of apple varieties and other fruits, and next to that, raspberries
hand. Years later, when Joyce took over the family table, her husband and blackberry canes.
Mike found it to be quite a feat to clean the petrified food from those
rails while he was stripping down the furniture. Unfortunately, the family demand was higher than what we could
produce at home, so she combed the valley looking for deals on pick-
One of the real advantages of having to stretch the food budget is that it-yourself fruit. A friend invited the family to pick cherries in their
Mom was constantly baking bread. We could smell that fresh baked commercial orchard, and we did for several hours until we pretty much
smell throughout the house when she pulled the pans from the oven. had the trees stripped down. We also attempted to pick some pie
Then we’d wait five or ten minutes or so for it to cool down just enough cherries, but they were way too ripe and sweet, beyond the possibility
that we could eat it without burning our mouths. By that time, Mom of canning. We loaded the large containers of our harvest in to the
would have already moved on to another task, and the coast was clear trunk of the car, but when we arrived home, she was very disappointed
to invade the kitchen, cut a nice thick slice, smother it with butter and to find that our harvest containers were less than half full, and thought
enjoy! Then she got a Kitchen Aid mixer, and she expanded the bak- that it was due to over-ripe fruit shrinkage. She didn’t think we had
ing menu to rolls and other goods. It was bread baking on steroids. It enough fruit to get us through the winter. In reality it had nothing to
was always white bread and was wonderfully delicious. Unfortunately, do with the ripeness of the fruit; instead, it was that our aging yellow
Mom’s best friend Marjorie Van Dyke’s daughter, Carol, a dentist with ‘57 Chevrolet had a dilapidated package tray that gave the back seat
some health problems, introduced her to the ‘whole grains world’, boys access to the trunk’s contents, coupled with a rusted out hole in
sharing a number of new age healthy eating books. White bread was the floor, giving them a place to drop the pits, ‘the evidence’.
temporarily suspended, and Mom started on a learning curve to make
healthy bread scrumptious. The regular cherries were canned whole, meaning the pits stayed in,
but after we harvested pie cherries, we would all help Mom take the
Over the years, Mom maximized the use of the Roy land to be able to pits out. Sometimes we would slip a whole cherry in a jar, thinking it
grow a lot of the fruits we ate. With only a few feet to the edge of the was good luck to bite into a piece of pie with a cherry pit. If anything,
property line behind the house, she planted a row of gooseberries with one would guess it was good luck for our dentist.
some rhubarb plants wedged in between. We would pick and eat the
gooseberries while they were quite sour and crunchy, and Mom would Mom always gladly accepted boxes of fruit or vegetables and or boxes
make pies of them maintaining this great tart quality of the berries. with old clothes and things. A few times the boxes just appeared on
It wasn’t till years later that we would taste mature, and grossly sweet our porch. Sometimes this would entail apples or other fruit or veg-
gooseberries, and wondered, why would anyone let them get so ripe. etables that weren’t exactly eatable, but other times there were pret-
We appreciated fruits and things more on the sour side. ty interesting items to be found. Once there was a kid’s Dutchmen
costume in a box. Tony couldn’t wait to put that on and go over to
Right at the property line, or maybe a little bit over on the neigh- Grandma and Grandpa’s to go out and work the cows. He thought
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that given their Holstein breed originated in Holland, they certainly line for days to bleach from the muslin yellow to a clean white. At one
would appreciate having a Dutchman in their midst. Thus, at the first point, Mom bought a used wringer washer for extracting excess water
opportunity, Tony donned the outfit and went out with Jim to bring to facilitate the drying. Mom generally operated the machines, but
the cows up for milking. The costume scared a cow with a newborn other clothing chores, emptying the clothes hamper, sorting according
calf which came after both Jim and Tony. Jim tried to fend it off with to color, hanging and removing from the line or dryer and folding were
a stick while Tony scrambled for the fence. Jim said, “While I was try- assigned to the kids.
ing to protect my costumed younger brother, the cow pushed me into
the electric fence and gave me a whopping shock.” As it happened, Mom also often did the folding and organizing of
the clean laundry; it never seemed like work when watching her. It
And speaking of costumes, buying full on ones for Halloween wasn’t was amazing how fast and efficient she would do it. Every person
so much in vogue at the time, and most kids displayed their favorite had a stack, every stack was neatly done, they were always in the same
characters via masks for their trick or treating activities. Mom, how- quadrant/location of the table, you knew exactly where your pile was
ever, went for the creative (aka economical) approach and we were walking in from school, and yes, of course, we were responsible for put-
encouraged to create our own masks, which we did out of big brown ting them away before any dinner would be had. Then there was the
recycled paper shopping bags. mastery with which she handled and folded sheets, especially the fit-
ted ones. They always ended up the same size to fit neatly in a drawer
Halloween was also a time to make some homemade doughnuts, cara- or cupboard, and when unfolding, you always knew how to lay them
mel coated apples, or popcorn balls rather than buy candy. One year, on the bed so they would fit right the first time. Similarly, Joyce recalls,
we even did pre-trick or treat activities like bobbing for apples. Ken re- “Stacks of towels, done every day, oh my! How did she get every kid
calls one Halloween when Mom made a large batch of doughnuts and through the bathtub every single day, dirty as we were (after barn, yard,
Jeff and Eunice Van Dyke brought their autistic son, Jeffery John, over or garden chores, or just outside activity), and then have every towel
to trick-or-treat. He apparently liked the donut so much that the next washed everyday to be able to do it again the next day. The hamper
day he walked all the way from his house in Verboort to ours in Roy to outside the bathroom only held so much. Bottom line…good thing
get another doughnut. Krispy Kreme and Voodoo you better look out! I have a Mike! That kind of organization and efficiency with laundry
Ken added that there weren’t any doughnuts left over, so instead Mom still escapes me!”
treated him to blackberry cobbler or her blackberry special. She said it
was cute watching him eat it using a large serving spoon. In the years before cotton/polyester blends, there was a lot of ironing
to do and Mom would mix boxes of flaked starch into water, slurry the
There were other times that Mom would get large boxes of clothing, clothes into it, then wring them out and roll them up before placing
hand-me-downs, and we all had fun trying the pieces on to see who into plastic bags in the freezer. Afterwards, these would be divvied up
would be able to add to their wardrobe. Periodically, we would also as an ironing chore.
need to pull things we had outgrown and pass them down to a younger
sibling. There was never an end to the laundry tending task. There was One of the first things Mom did after moving into the Roy house, was
a constant flow of dirty home-made cloth diapers, bed linens, and mul- install a clothes line. It had five lines and extended from in front of the
tiple changes of clothes from all the active kids. Also, Mom would oc- utility room out towards the driveway. When the weather cooperated,
casionally obtain a bunch of empty flour sacks that she’d cut open and Mom would have the clothes line filled to capacity. She preferred the
launder to be used for drying dishes. These she’d hang on the clothes feel of line-dried towels versus machine dried ones. The only excep-
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tion was when the Duyck’s with the pig farm were spreading manure, remind the person in charge to fulfill that duty on collection day. Con-
then the dryer ones were definitely more pleasant. The clothes line currently, it was when Shel Silverstein published her children’s book
also would later serve useful for unicycle training, something we got entitled, “Sarah Cynthia Sylvia Stout”, and that became one of Mom’s
for Christmas, but never mastered away from the crutch of the wires. all time favorite poems.
From the kitchen window looking at the front yard, the clothes line Sarah Cynthia Sylvia Stout
was to the right, and almost directly in front, was a lone fir tree. It
didn’t have lower branches, so didn’t bother the clothes line, but was Would not take the garbage out.
increasing in height at a pretty good pace, and when it would bow with
the slightest wind, it would bring back memories of the neighbor’s tree She’d wash the dishes and scrub the pans
crashing into the front of their house during the Columbus Day storm.
Also, our electrical service line ran through the tree branches. Mom Cook the yams and spice the hams,
thought the tree should be topped.
And though her parents would scream and shout,
Dad climbed up to the tree top and started hand sawing sections in
order to shorten it. It was a slow process, given the diameter of the She simply would not take the garbage out.
tree, and that he was doing it by hand, but he persisted and would cut
and toss off section by section of the crown. Tony noticed that Dad Every spring Saint Francis Grade School would host a family picnic
was in the tree and was just finishing cutting another two foot section, at Shute Park in Hillsboro. It was one event we all looked forward to
so went out and stood under the tree yelling, “Here Dad, toss it to me”. and an opportunity to see if we had improved our coordination from
Dad knew it was way too heavy for young Tony to catch, so he hollered the previous year when it came to roller skating at the big rink in the
at him again to get away from the tree. At that time, Tony didn’t hear park. Mom would typically go skating along side the kids; however,
what Dad was saying and kept telling him to toss it to him. The heavy there was one time that she twisted her ankle on the way to church, so
log was weighing on Dad and he needed to let it go, but that would had to sit that skating year on the sidelines. Lunch was potluck and
have been right on top of Tony. Finally, in desperation, Dad heaved there were always those parents who could not cook, so they brought
it out as far as he could, away from Tony, and the log hit the electrical lots of potato chips and other salty snacks. It was an infrequent oc-
service wire to the house, cutting off the electricity. We were without casion to munch on things we did not get at home. We also went ice
electricity for a day or so while Mom nearly suffered delirium tremors skating once a year around Christmas time at the Lloyd Center rink.
not being able to use her electric frying pan. Dad somehow main-
tained his cool and walked by Tony muttering, “You nincompoop.” Mom worked at Dierickx Farms for several years as strawberry crew
boss and would get to bring home nightly boxes of strawberries. Those
In the early years, we burned most of the family ‘garbage’ in a fifty she usually cut with a knife, sprinkled with a tad of sugar, and then
five gallon metal barrel in the back of the house. Then, the County served with whipped cream. They were always delicious, even after
restricted burning, so we had to start paying the garbage man to haul slaving a full day picking them. It was our good fortune that at the
away the trash. At first, he came up the driveway for it. After awhile, end of the season, she was always the first that could go in before they
he insisted we tug it to the bottom of the driveway. That’s when taking opened the field up for u-picking, and we brought home lots of flats
out the garbage became a despised chore, and Mom constantly had to of the berries. That created a real dilemma for the boys who weren’t
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as fast pickers as Joyce and Jane, and who were accustomed to filling be remedied, as it was a pity to see so many beautiful plants disappear
up the bottoms of their hallocks with dirt clods. No, that didn’t work from the grounds. The maintenance person muttered at her, saying
when they were picking for family consumption, and when the field that each of those lawn obstacles reduced his lawn mowing efficiency,
boss, their Mom, would discover their trick when the berry flat was and he planned to take them all out. It made Mom sick to see those
carried home. They had to pick for real when it came to u-picking! beautiful grounds being destroyed, and when she would notice the guy
removing another plant, it was all she could do to restrain herself from
Mom made the best freezer jam. After strawberry harvest, she also grabbing a hoe or other garden utensil and run after him to keep him
worked as crew boss for Finegan’s. They weren’t the easiest people to from killing off more of the landscape. She finally decided it was time
work for, but it did provide a lot of fresh raspberries and a half freezer to retire from that job.
full of jam made from them! Mom continues putting up record quan-
tities of fruits and vegetables, and over the years her garden size has Once Susanne was in high school, Mom started working on her col-
grown, as well as the space taken up by her garage and basement pan- lege degree more intensely. She had taken quite a few courses over
tries and multiple freezers. If there were ever a natural disaster, Mom’s the years accumulating credits, including television higher education
house would be the place to go hang out. programs and night classes; however, some of those had expired over
time, so it was necessary to redo some of the credits. She enrolled at
Mom finally stashed her umbrella hat and berry picking clothes, retir- Portland State University, attending classes with alumni 40 years her
ing as field boss. Although she would eventually get more mileage out junior, and with a lot of hard work and persistence, graduated with a
of her classic long sleeve white shirts, wearing them while working on degree in accounting and psychology.
other projects, somehow during all those years she managed to avoid
getting them stained from flying berries. However retiring as ‘boss’ Thereafter, Mom got her first job as a graduate working as an accoun-
completely wouldn’t happen for a few years as she maintained her 4-H tant for PMI (Property Management Inc.), managing the account-
Dairy Superintendent position at the Washington County Fair as well ing and financial functions of a portfolio of multi-family properties in
as volunteer boss at the 4-H Chuckwagon. inter-city Portland and Vancouver. PMI was then bought by a con-
solidator who had their own financial infrastructure, which ended up
Mom used her 4-H connection to get a job working at the Washington leaving her without a job.
County Extension office that was along the Tualatin Valley Highway
in Hillsboro. The office setting was a long two story building set back Mom found a nice fit when she landed an accounting job with Norris,
from the busy highway, surrounded by a serene grass landscape filled Beggs, & Simpson, a real estate firm in the Portland area. At NB&S
with trees and shrubs. As office manager, Mom quickly put order she did accounting for their Commercial Properties division. In ad-
to the establishment, organizing files, schedules, cataloging brochures, dition to overseeing and reconciling the collection of rental monies,
and in particular, updating their fulfillment processes. However, once as she did for PMI, she got to do maintenance financial projections
she had the office running efficiently, she started to notice what was and long and short term budgets. Not only did Mom enjoy working
going on outside involving the grounds care. Every couple of weeks, there, she also found them to be a great work family, and participated
she’d notice that a seemingly healthy shrub or tree would be removed in their outside-of-work corporate activities such as volunteering to-
from the landscape. She spoke to the grounds maintenance person gether with Mike for the Hood to Coast relay. During the same time,
asking him if the plant was diseased, and if so, perhaps he should dis- Mom also did rental accounting for her own duplex and Tony’s four-
cuss the problem with an extension agent to see if the problem could plex, managing payroll for Solid Ground Construction, and of course
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did accounting for Mike’s Z’s Car Care Business, as well as helped
manage training and safety and office paper work. According to Ken,
Mom also volunteered as construction manager for Erin’s Mom, Mi-
chelle, coordinating the remodel of her house in Beaverton.
Eventually Mom retired from Norris, Beggs, & Simpson and returned
to work on her farm; although she would frequently be called back to
NB&S to work various fill-ins or special projects. As it turned out,
she ended up having three retirement “events” there, usually involving
a celebratory cake at least. Then later, when she was called back in for
some quick help or something, she told them right when she walked
in the door, that she was more than willing to help out, but didn’t want
another cake. Alas, three celebrations were enough, or they should
have changed to blackberry special, apple cobbler, or pie! It was obvi-
ous that they certainly valued her.
At home, after painting the house and out buildings, expanding her
garden and flower beds, updating scrapbooks, reorganizing her filing
system, etc, she seemingly ran out of things to fill her day, so went to
work for Erin at Evers Law Office. Mom started out helping in the
remodel of the first law office, and once the upgrades were buttoned
up and the reception desk was installed, she took over that function as
well as the office bookkeeping.
Five years later when Erin bought a new building for her law office,
Mom put on her construction hat again and worked after hours re-
modeling that office while she was still working her day job. A year or
two after the new office was opened, Mom retired as receptionist and
bookkeeper. Soon after that she worked at Tony’s floor covering busi-
ness as office manager and bookkeeper. Mom retired again after she
managed the closure and disposal of assets of that business when Tony
decided to live and work overseas.
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They finally agreed on the project, enlisted John’s help, tore down the
old shed, and built an extensive addition including a two car garage,
laundry/utility room, and large canned goods pantry on the Roy house.
John, Tony and Mom prefabricated the trusses in Dierickx’s barn, set-
ting up the wood floor as a jig, then transporting them on one of his
trailers to the construction site to lift into place. Once the construc-
tion was finished, Tony was happy when Christmas rolled around, as
In 1973, Mom organized the kids to sing in a folk group for her friend
Elizabeth Reichow’s son, Bill. In the early years we lived close to the
Reichow’s, and Elizabeth would often baby sit the kids. ( Jane recalls
Elizabeth’s large wood-burning cook stove in the corner of the kitch-
en, and Tony remembers Mom giving Elizabeth’s daughter, Jeanne,
tips on riding her Tennessee Walker horse that was in the pasture be-
hind the house. Also, Jim remembers one of Mom’s visits to Elizabeth
when the kids were playing upstairs. Joyce somehow fell out of the
upstairs window, and Vincent jumped out after her and broke his arm.
(Apparently he was the first one to fall for Joyce.) At the wedding
service, Mom played electric bass that she inherited - together with a
water bed – when one of our St. Francis Folk group members left for
Canada to homestead. The interesting thing at the wedding reception
was that they served all processed food from Reeses Company, where
the newlyweds both worked. Tony recalled everything had lots of may-
onnaise, and it mostly tasted like potato salad!
In the spring of 1975, Mom drove the five younger kids and Dad up
to Seattle to see Joyce graduate with honors from Seattle University.
In addition to the ceremony, perhaps as a reward for the kids sitting
still for so many hours, she took everyone out for canoe rides on Lake
Washington, followed by ice cream for all. According to Joyce, “All
the kids loved it. I’m sure it was everyone’s first time in a canoe…lots
of splashing back and forth and racing each other in the four canoes
that Mom rented.”
1936
1949. Mom at the fair. 1947. Phil, Carl, Jean, Grandma, Peggy, Mom. 1951. Mom with Flicka. 1951. Mom, Grandma’s marriage to Ken Miller.
1958. Peggy, Mom, Dad. 1955. Grandma, Joyce, Jim, Mom, Jean.
1953. Grandma, Mom holding Joyce.
1954. Dad, Mom with Joyce. 1954. Mom with Joyce. 1963. Jim, Dad, Jane, Mom with Margaret, Ken, John, Joyce, Tony. 1964. Language course.
Wedding Plan-
ner Extraordinaire
Mom became quite proficient at sewing wedding and bridesmaids
dresses; however, her Aunt Lilly once snorted that she cheats and
uses a sewing machine. (Aunt Lilly was a seamstress who did ev-
erything by hand.) In 1974, Mom sewed a wedding dress for our
cousin Charmel Evers. She also did all of the bridesmaids dress-
es in addition to planning the wedding and reception dinner.
Charmel said, “She did the whole wedding. I remember her taking
me to get the invitations and arranging for the wedding photographer
(I never did get the pictures made and only have the proofs.) I was
worried about the cost since I was limited to $1000 for the whole wed-
ding”. Your Mom said, “Don’t worry, your Dad can afford it!” Charmel
recalled, “I knew she was doing Dad’s bookkeeping at the time. We
went to Lloyd Center to get shoes. I found the cheapest white sandals
John added that they also spent a day seeking out even more thrill rides
for the kids at Knott’s Berry Farm, after which they went to the Medieval
Times castle for a dinner show complete with jousting and sword fights,
along with enough horse riding to keep Mom entertained. John said,
“The dinner included a feast without utensils, so we didn’t have to worry
about Mom stabbing us with a fork when we put our elbows on the table.”
1998. Mom at Joel and Lauren’s birthday party. In 2005, Mom went to another Attia wedding, this time Aunt Peggy and
Uncle Farag’s daughter Sandy’s, that was held in Bressanone, Italy. In
preparation for the trip, she took an Italian class, and later at the recep-
tion gave a toast to Sandy and Mateo in Italian. Following the wedding,
Mom and Mike toured Florence and Rome. There, they used a digital
camera for taking snapshots of all their sight seeing. Unfortunately, the
memory card didn’t work when they got home, and they weren’t able
to download any of the photos, so most of those memories are gone.
Mom reported in her 2012 annual Christmas letter that she and
Mike were able to add 5.71 acres of scrub brush and trees to their
existing pasture area. She said that she was enjoying, ‘taming
the monster’, and attacked the first third of the land in the spring.
In October 2016, Mom again opened her farm for her great grand-
daughter, Anika’s birthday party. Anika’s mother, Maria wrote, “You
are all the best family ever! The kids definitely thought the hay fort
was amazing - that was the clear winner for fun factor - thank you Un-
cle Kenny! And to Margaret, party-planner extraordinaire - you are al-
ways amazingly fun and innovative. The cupcake cow was fabulous too.
A special thanks to my Mom and to Susanne for behind-the-scenes
support. But of course, it would have all been nothing without the
amazing venue - thanks Grandma and Mike for so joyfully allowing
us to invade your space. We all learned that farm chores are so fun.”